In my previous post I said that our reality is real as an experience, but nevertheless a dream. Here is the follow-up question. If it is a dream, what keeps us from waking up?
I described that we mistake our day-to-day experiences for real, but that they are merely shadows, reflections if you will, of a deeper reality. With this post I aim to describe why it is so hard to wake up, and give a suggestion what to do about it.
The wet dream
Quite some years ago I met a guy who mastered lucid dreaming. The moment he acquired the skill, he used it for having sex in his dreamworld. It is said that astral projection and OBE are also useful for this type of experiences, but these are not within my scope of interest.
So this guy went on his lucid dreaming adventures, having all kinds of sexual experiences. But every time he woke up in the morning, he realized that his physical body ejaculated during his dream, giving him a wet dream and stuff to clean. And perhaps something to explain to his wife.
Solving the problem
You would assume that he would scale down his sexual dreamtime endeavors, but you’re wrong. He was so amazingly skilled in lucid dreaming that he was able to nest a dream inside his dream. In this second dream dimension he could live out his sexual fantasies without his physical body responding to it. He shielded his physical body with some kind of a firewall from what was happening in the nested dream. As the dream was playing out, the physical body didn’t know. As he would wake up, he would remember, giving his physical body a pleasurable feeling.
What this lucid dreamer did deliberately, we do probably across lifetimes.
Re-incarnation
To me, re-incarnation is as real as the air I breathe, real as an experience. What I see when I observe my own past life experiences and those of others during my guided OBE sessions is that we notice a continuation or a clear storyline from life to life. Sometimes with big jumps, but more often than not with subtle adjustments to achieve a previous goal, or setting new goals based on things that went wrong. And yes, it can be as mundane as solving a wet dream.
Like a few days ago. I did a journey with a woman. She met the woman she was in a previous life and she was told that in this life she got everything that the previous life had missed out on. A peaceful, structured and clean life. The woman of the previous life was relieved and very pleased how good it had played out. Her current life plays out so well that there is no need to experience another life on Earth. But before that message could land, she had to observe experiences of her childhood that she had forgotten. Experiences of being deeply loved and cared for by her parents and grandparents. She was deeply moved.
Often, re-incarnation is pictured as one candle lighting the next candle, from one experience to the next. What if every physical death creates the opportunity to return to the dreamer, or to nest a new dream inside the current one, to carry the light one candle further? And by that, creating a new dream to fix something that we think needs fixing, a new dream to experience something we believe is important.
Nothing really matters?
From the perspective of the lived experience, things are easily perceived as important. But from the absolute perspective, nothing really matters. Because it is all a dream and any kind of suffering will not escape the dream.
The moment we give importance to things inside the dream, we are sandbagging our own wake-up, strengthening the firewall, and are likely to nest a next dream. In my life I erased the idea of guilt during a deep OBE. It was a solid foundation for countless lives. Needless to say how I feel after erasing it.
Addicted to the game?
We can consider the behavior of creating a new life over and over as an addiction to the human game. In the next life I will make it to the next level. I have seen this more than once in my sessions. Being strongly attached to a certain outcome creates a strong addiction.
The addictive dynamic shows up in the small things too. Think of how you fall asleep at night. The thoughts that you have when you fall asleep often make the way you wake up the next morning. A continuation of the previous day’s story. It results in being unaware of the addiction to unconscious thinking.
To dream or not to dream...
Of course we take our life seriously. It is good to care for yourself and others. But at the same time, if waking up is your dream, it’s useful to stop giving importance to things that incentivize you to create a new dream. Be in peace and acceptance with what was, and what is. That is the beginning of waking up.
When caring for yourself and/or for others is your dream, then that is no problem at all. But don’t mistake it for ultimate truth. See it for what it is. You can care deeply and still know it is a dream. It’s perfect to love your dream, as much as there is perfect love without.